I will take kitties suggestions too. I brought Matthew and Nate home a week ago tomorrow{Friday}. I kept them in the room Andrew likes/liked to sleep in as he has a chair in there that he claimed. Neither of the boys can get into the chair{it is a camping chair with pillows in it}. I kept the boys in a large cat/dog playpen. It had everything they needed. Well Sunday night I figured a way to let them have run of the room. There is no door on the room so I'm using a screen and baby gate to keep them in and Andrew out. They are small kittens so afraid of Andrew hurting them. My help needed is how long should I keep them in there before letting them out? Andrew comes to the doorway and hiss and growl at them. They are getting as much or even a little more human contact as they were getting from where I got them from. There was a very hyper 3 year old there so it is calmer here. I got them from the apartment below me. I have not letting them have full run of the house. Andrew is heavier then both of them put together and a 5 year old. He was 2 months old when I got him. I brought him in and let him go and Alex didn't do nothing not even hiss at him. I am thinking I am failing these 2 boys. What to do?
Mom
You are not failing. It just takes time, especially since Andrew is still dealing with alex’s Loss - as are you.
when I got Ella, she was 8 weeks old and Sasha was 8. Sasha hated her on sight. But because Ella was smaller, Sasha wasn’t as threatened,and even tho Sasha tried to bully ella, Sasha is basically a wimp. Ella tho...jeez. She has tortitude even tho she’s a panther.
Lord, nothing kept that girl caged. I had TWO baby gates on top of each other, and she climbed over them! I’m like, “what the what,” when I kept finding her outside of her room. I gave up after that and only put her in the safe room when I was at work or asleep, with a closed door. I got her in July, so I was home most of the summer, so they were able to have a lot of interaction.
the first week tho, I slept in that room with Ella. Sasha didn’t like it, but I felt it was needed to bond with Ella.
that would be my suggestion. Sleep a week in their room, and let supervised visits for another week. Then let them out when you are home, but a little more freedom.
hope that helps.
sasha still hates Elle, but tolerates her. I think Ella would still like to be friends, but she just ignores Sasha’s attitude for the most part.. They are almost 7 and 15 now. 😳
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I've seen Jackson Galaxy feed the cats within sight of each other. They can't get at each other's food, so there's not a fight over resources, but since they see each other at meal times they start to associate each other with good things.
You are not failing.
When we take Vili and Pinja were 12 weeks old and our old Ladys 10 years old. Ladys hiss to kids almost 6 weeks. Only hiss not try kill Vili&Pinja because they were babys. Now old Ladys tolerates but don´t be very very best friends with them.
Do you have Feliway? That help here.
Can little boys go "hide" where Andrew can´t go and get them?
Maybe Jackson Galaxy trick help... If you can give food same time gate in midway. They can see others but food "win". Just like Ella Bella say.
When I write this, from behind me I here Lady Nöpö hiss to Vili. Because Nöpö want to go to nap in bedroom and Vili was wrong place wrong time and Nöpö want him to move.
Cats do not like change. It will take time. It feels horrible, I know.
Ella just jumped sasha, and Sasha hissed at me. Cuz it’s my fault I brought Ella home. 😳
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You won't believe this. It happened at 3:30AM. Matthew got out and the hissing and growling and Kory barking all started. Kory doesn't like them at all right now. Andrew was doing nothing. It was all Matthew. I let them out after feeding supper tonight and got a wake up call from Andrew that they needed to go to bed. He started Meowing I think he was saying these boys need to go in their room RIGHT NOW!!!. Andrew loves to sleep with his meowmy and I love having him in bed with me. So now off to bed as it is 2:30AM. We will do freedom again tomorrow. Andrew figured Matthew was in his bed in the chair in my bedroom. Will update tomorrow, Saturday.
Aaaawwww… Andrew will be good big brother to little boys 😀.
I remember 1 time when Vili&Pinja start running and playing evening at bedtime. Mama say to Lady Roosa "go and say something to little monkeys. Tomorrow is workday", Roosa left and go to "monkeys" and start hissing to them. Rest of night was silent 😆
Andrew has been a champ with me around. He is bad when I can't see him. Matthew is not being nice to Andrew. He has been doing lots of hissing and growling. Andrew hasn't said a word but his mad tail gets going. He would do it to Alex and there would be a fight. Alex would always get Andrew but these 2 are small so I'm afraid he will hurt them. He is really mad because Matthew keeps laying by me in his favorite spots. I am hoping this isn't driving a wedge between Andrew and I. I do put them in their room at feeding times and bedtime. Andrew would fight Alex if he came by his can food while he was eating. Andrew had to change his eating spot because of these boys but no that it upset him. Just afraid I am upsetting my baby.
Mom
Maybe try Feliway. It help here very much when Vili and Pinja were babys and Ladys hiss to them.
Is playpen a roof top of it?
meowmy
Sorry to hear you've been having a rough time of it with the little ones. It can be a tricky, slooow process sometimes. When we brought Amelia home, Chloe was a year old (Amelia was 8 weeks) and it took about 3 weeks before they settled in. Finny came a year later and it took a fair bit longer - I kept him in a separate room for over a month. But, it's hard when you don't have that choice. 🙁 I hope things settle soon and Andrew feels more comfortable with them.
I definitely found that Feliway helped with Chloe who is an anxious cat so perhaps that could be an option?
Ok everyone. Everything is going ok not good or great just ok. Matthew thinks he owns the place. Hissing and growling at Andrew. Nate won't leave the safe room because Kory barked at him last week. I am in the middle not knowing what to do. At night the safe room is closed up so that Andrew can have his mommy time. I took today off because we are getting the real bad wind chills of -33 to -55F and I walk to work. I took a vacation day. The doctors suggested to try and play with hunting toys to get Nate out of the comfort of the room. Nope just started a fight with Andrew and Matthew. Those 2 are so much alike but 4 1/2 years apart. Andrew was the same way to Alex and now Andrew is acting just like Alex did when he came in here after Alex's littermate passed away. So I guess for right now I will have to put them in the safe room at feeding times and bed/work times and see if sooner or later the blockage can just stay down. Right now Andrew, Kory, Matthew and Nate are mad at me and all of them are out of each other's sight.
Oh well
Mom
Hang in there!
Hey Me here. Me madded at Mattfew him no use him inside voice at me but me use mine. Me go meow and him go hissss and growl. Me meowmy know me tressed wif him so her putted him in da safe room. Dat brat him climbed out of da room. Me meowmy say her gotta get someding else to keeped dem in der room. Her gived dem into me area cause her say dey room is chilly since we nasty wind. Me meowmy gived dem a heater too. Me no wanted dem to freeze but me wanted dem be nice. Nate no uses bad words yik Mattfew. Me meowmy say me was naughty yik Mattfew when me yittle but me no remember. Me meowmy say her getted dem a big babby gated so me can yook at dem and maybe Mattfew learn uses inside voice. Meow
Try if Feliway help.
It take some time to them get know each other.